What happens when someone stuck in the Controller pattern (Compulsive Perfectionist Disorder) enlists the help of the Self Compass?
You start appreciating appreciating yourself more.
That you possess the virtue of discipline. That you are:
- Conscientious, industrious, and reliable.
- Value self-discipline and stick-to-itiveness.
- Endorse social conventions and proprieties.
- Pillar of the community.
- Emphasize rationality and logic.
- A champion of morality.
It's a relief to know that by enlisting the Self Compass LAWS of personality, the recovering Controller gets to relax. And play. Instead of relying entirely on the Strength compass point, you grow by drawing in the wisdom offered through the Weakness and Love compass points.
|Compulsive Perfectionist Disorder|
- You find the grimness of constant competence replaced by tasks completed in due time without the need for perfection.
- You organize yourself to have fun.
- Going on walks for pleasure as much as exercise, you breathe in the air; listen for the sounds of a bird’s song.
- The fillips of joy floating up from your belly, you realize, come only from letting go.
When you hear that inner judge start up with the old tirades of self-condemnation about how you should have done something better, you stop. I’m human, you say. The planet will carry on without me being perfect.
|Feelings of Joy|
Other people become less of an annoyance and more of a gift. You are amazed to discover that when you move into the Weakness compass point and ask for help, others actually do assist you. Caringly. Even efficiently. It shocks you to feel tears in your eyes when this happens.
Taking in more deeply that other people love you brings emotional vulnerability. That is uncomfortable. But you are good at persevering, so you allow yourself a degree of surrender, with discernment, to the untidy, not always controllable, world of feelings.
And you begin experiencing what Jesus had in mind when he said, “My peace I give to you; not as the world gives do I give to you. Let not your heart be troubled, neither let it be afraid” (Jn 14:27).
|Peace As Christ Gives|
Instead of predictably patterned behavior, the Self Compass now offers you 360 degrees of choice to use as appropriate for any given situation. Now you are freed to express your own individual style in Christ. Precious in his eyes, there is no one else like you, because “the very hairs of your head are all numbered” (Mt 10:30).
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